Memoirs of The Butterfly Man

Saying Goodbye to The Butterfly Man

2011-11-17T09:00:00.000-04:00

On October 31, 2011 I officially retired from my Butterfly Therapy work. The journey has taken me 15 years to complete. This chapter is now closed and a new one has begin. It is a time for reflection and sharing. I am now busy writing my memoirs and working on what the future holds for my own identity. I thank the following people for making this amazing chapter in my life possible:

My birth identity John Charles for making it possible for me to be here at this time;
For all the clients who have allowed me to be part of their identity;
For those who have helped me with my personal development including those who have done this with tough love;
To my colleagues and to my dear friend Phyllis for all her love and support;
For those divine beings who have guided me;
For my dear friend Jesus and all his help;
For my dear wife for her valued love and support;
And finally, to all those who I may have not mentioned. You may be out of sight but not out of mind.

This chapter would not have been possible without the combined effort of so many. You have truly been great. Thank you from my heart and soul to yours.

Personal stories of transformation through Charles' Butterfly Effect can be forwarded by email or by postal service to 74 Avondale Road, RR2, Hants Co., Newport, Nova Scotia, Canada. Your personal information, name and address is not necessary in your correspondence.

Again thank you with love and appreciation,

Charles Trenholm
The Butterfly Man
http://giftedhealing.blogspot.com
charles.trenholm@gmail.com

The Actions of Our Words

2011-10-27T20:09:00.000-04:00

What areaction words in your language? You might understand from your early Englishclasses that aword that describes an actionis called a verb. For example, the verb ‘singing’ is fairly clear to understand. Singingrequires making musical sounds from your voice. It may or may not sound likesinging to others but you know the meaning when you say you are singing. Other clear action words are shouting, laughing, calling, kissing, etc.If you were planning to create an action, you first have to form an intention.An intention is simply a plan for action. For example, if your intention was tosing a song to your mother, you would then decide what song and when to sing.The result of this planning is singing.But what if you picked a different action word and you did not understand orappreciate the results? This happened to me recently and here is my story:

A Shopping Trip

My wife andI were out shopping and our last stops were at Wal-Mart and Mark’s Work World. Idecided to drive over to Mark’s after letting my wife off at Wal-Mart. We weregoing to meet outside of Wal-Mart when we were finished. Normally wecommunicate by cell phone when we are apart but that day my wife’s cell phonebattery was not charged so we arranged our meeting place ahead of time. My planto shop and buy something at Mark’s was short-lived because I was not in themood. I drove over to the Wal-Mart parking lot. Waiting for my wife did notappeal to me so I decided I would go in and look for her. My first attempt didnot produce results. I returned to the car with a bag of mixed nuts for myefforts. Then I decided to look for her again. The second time produced thesame results as the first. I decided to analyze the situation. I remindedmyself that from past experience, if I was looking for her in a mall or store(without phone), I would get frustrated and this would tire me physically aswell as mentally. So why do this, I said to myself? Why not come up with adifferent plan of action?

RecallingMy Advice

I beganrecalling my advice given during client consultations. One statement was this: Everyoneis experiencing, through their intentions,exactly what they are calling into action. So exactly what did I call into action? I retraced my steps back to when I left Mark’s. What was myintention? My intention when I arrived at Wal-Mart was to go in and find mywife. No, that was not accurate. My intention was to go in and look for her. That is exactly what Idid. I went in and started literally looking.So I asked myself, “How can I achieve my desired outcome” which was to successfullyfind my wife? I would have to changemy intention to one of finding. So howwas I going to do this? I could not recall any experiences where I went from looking to finding in one combined action. As I walked forward, I could feelmyself looking through my eyes and itwas not producing any results. Next I gave myself the command to stop looking. Itold myself that old habits are hard to break. I could feel myselfinvoluntarily looking straight aheadand then stopping by looking downward. After several timesexperiencing this, I decided a totally different plan was required.

ARevelation

What cameto me was to take it out of my hands (figuratively speaking) and put it into mywife’s. Yes this would work. I would stopthe action of looking to one of allowing my wife to find me. In order to accomplish this, I would have to distractmyself from involuntarily acting on my previous intention/s since the patternwas well established. I went over to the dairy and frozen food section and beganoccupying my thoughts with price comparisons. Without realizing it, I hadinitiated and implemented a new action.

Within afew minutes or less my wife came around the corner and found me. What arevelation I just experienced. It actually worked as I planned. It was possibleto go from creation to completion in a matter of seconds/minutes.

My Wife’sExperience

After weleft the store, I asked my wife about her experience. She told me she hadfinished her shopping and went outside and saw our car. She thought I might besleeping in it so she went over but I was not there. She then decided she wouldgo back in and find me. Yes, she saidfind me and not look for me. She went in and wandered over to the dairy isle andthere I was. She had succeeded in acquiring the intended results of her actionswhere I had originally failed. End of Story

Conclusion

You may notalways be aware of what you are experiencing when experienced. Sometimes, theexperience when viewed incorrectly can be tiring and frustrating. It is onlythrough awareness of your exact intentions that you will find respect and appreciatein all that you create.

CharlesTrenholm

Reflectionist

Living in the Past

2010-12-04T15:24:00.000-04:00

Imagine having an argument with a loved one or a friend. You get upset and say some things you shouldn't. You walk away and begin to replay the experience in your head. You attempt to rationalize your emotional response and your choice of words. You tell yourself through suggested finger pointing that it was not your fault. You are the one that is feeling angry and hurt. You are way too emotional to take back anything you might have said. It will be some time before you get over it.

Consider this possibility.
Your emotional side was way more expressive than your rational side during the argument. Your reaction was instant. Lets look at what this might tell you about yourself? Is it possible the episode triggered a response from an earlier in life conflict. If you could hear your original thoughts, this is what you might hear: "Did I deserve to be spoken to in this manner? It was not my fault so why was I blamed?"

This is just an example of relevant living in the past. Unresolved issues do not go away. They get to recreate themselves through 'the law of attraction.' Others play parts in our unconscious re-dramatizations. They are assigned roles by 'the law' just as if they were actors in a play. Each person plays his or her part perfectly creating experiences in which we re-live earlier scenes in other costumes. If these conflicts are hidden to the conscious mind, how are we ever going to resolve them?

We may or may not be able to resolve the original conflict but we can change our response to it. Normally we cannot stop something from happening if we do not know it is happening. Through conscious awareness of 'the law', we can recognize and change our behavior toward re-creating scenes. If we get good enough in recognizing the signs before the reaction, we can eliminate these unpleasant experiences altogether. Please keep in mind that the same law is true for pleasant and loving experiences. The awareness of a loving reaction can enhance it even more.

Note: The information provided in this article is based on the actual work of the author over the last 15 years. Please feel free to consider the possibilities provided.

By
Charles Trenholm
Reflectionist

The Unseen Origin of Our Beliefs

2010-09-28T16:53:00.001-04:00

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Oh how eventful is the wonders of the creative mind. And what a amazing device we have within that ability. Computer software programs are mini minds that have their own language. Have you ever tried copying and pasting text from one program to another? Sometimes we end up experiencing difficulties after doing this. This happened just recently with me. I was updating my sister's ministry website with some new information and couldn't figure out why I was unable to eliminate certain line spacing after some headings. In some cases it worked but yet in other cases it didn't. Finally I contacted website hosting support and got the answer to my question of 'why?'

It seems that certain programs like MS Word maintain its formatting when you copy text with spaces, etc. from it and paste into another program such as the one I was using within the hosting website. In this case the original formatting is held and maintained. Repeated attempts to change text lines and rearrange spacing failed. Now I know to take a different path in how I choose to copy and paste between these programs.

This whole experience reminded me of the similarities between the human mind and software programs. Thoughts are experienced and statements of beliefs are formatted in original experiences. Switching from childhood programs of belief to adult programs can cause the same difficulties expressed in the previous paragraph. Most originating beliefs are embedded within out subconscious thus undetected. We often attempt to make changes in our behavior without success. Maybe we need to take a different path in the process. Recognizing our failed attempts is the first step in taking a new path toward positive change.

By
Charles Trenholm
Reflectionist

Wasting Time on the Outcome

2010-07-09T12:00:00.000-04:00

Today I was inspired to write an article about wasting time on outcomes. It was inspired by conversations and sessions I have had with people in their struggles to let go of their old self behaviors and move more fully into newly created expressions of self. Like most things in life, it usually has to do with relationships. Peoples greatest fear is that the relationship they are considering pursuing or pursuing might not end well and that they will have wasted their time, again.

The importance is in understanding the mechanism that keeps us from enjoying the process and not the outcome. Think of the outcome as the end of the road and how sad it would be if we missed having fun along the way. I remember my earlier in life obsession of my focus on arriving at my destination on time. It might have been some hotel room I booked or just getting to where I had set my sights. Well I certainly missed so much and my wife can attest to that. Through my obsessive behavior, she and my children missed out on what I would not stop to see. People in general focus so much on the end result and what they fear they will miss. They are rarely happy when the end result is achieved if they have missed the fun along the way. Trying to control the outcome can be such a waste of time. Appreciate the experience as it unfolds and all it allows you to learn. It is never about the destination but always the journey itself.

It is a process, and the sooner we have awareness that we are experiencing the process, the sooner we can change our perception of what we are experiencing. Most important of all, our very perceptions create our reality. Don't get caught up in your expectations of what the outcome will be or it will be such a waste of time. Enjoy the experience and have faith in the process. The outcome will look after itself.

By
Charles Trenholm
Reflectionist

Waiting - A Time Out

2009-03-09T12:36:00.005-04:00

Last week I had an appointment with my dentist and when I arrived, I entered the waiting room and walked directly to the sign on the wall that read “Waiting is a nuisance, ……………..”. That is exactly the time the dental assistant came out and escorted me to another room. When I was seated, I spoke of the signage I had just read and how I disagreed with what it expressed. I said that I believed waiting was actually a time-out for us and that we are out of sync with ourselves and this causes us to be out of sync with others. I believe the waiting can be viewed as a time-out similar to that giving to a child that is our of control.

We usually find fault with others when it seems they are behind. The next time you get frustrated waiting, consider doing this: Thing of it as an opportunity for you to slow down, to center yourself and to allow you to be in sync and harmony with universal time, not man-made time. Trust that your next appointment and your arrival time will coincide with those that are attending to you. Do not hurry the process, only believe in it. Never consider yourself late either, just on universal time.

When we are in balance and sync, we do not know waiting. Everything is ready for us and for others.
Viewing our life experiences in a little different fashion gives us the opportunity to broaden and enrich them even further. In the future, take your time-outs gracefully and set yourself straight for the next time. You will not be disappointed.

By
Charles Trenholm
Reflectionist

A Loving Self

2009-03-02T20:27:00.005-04:00

Why do some people love others so much and get so little back? They fall in love, give their heart away and then get it broken. How sad is that? They say to themselves, “What is wrong with me. I have done so much for that person. They don’t even like me.” You would think that what you give out, you would naturely get back. That is not always the case especially in relationships. And what is even worse is that they will do it all over again and each time they will get hurt.

Today, I decided to explain it in writing so that others would get it or at least the ones that want to. It starts out this way. We fall in love and we want to show that person how much we love them. We really do. They are our substitute for our own self-love that we desperately need. We think of those others so much that we leave ourselves out of the equation. This comes from what is missing in ourselves. I know this feeling as I recognized it in another a long time ago. The interesting thing with these people is that they really don’t like to be alone. That is why it is so important to find someone to share their lives with.

If you are too fanatical about love, look out. Check yourself out or check yourself in. Take some time and get to know yourself a little better first. One way is for you to take yourself for a walk. I don’t mean go for a walk alone. I mean imagine you were asking yourself to go for a walk with you. As you walk along, talk to yourself as if you were an imaginary person walking beside you. See if you can start a dialogue. After the walk ask yourself if you liked spending time with that person. I know you might be a little worried about someone seeing you talking to your imaginary friend but who cares especially if they don’t know you. I have personally done this and the result was very interesting. Don’t stop at just a walk. Be creative in establishing and exploring a loving relationship with your self. Yes, there might be some things you do not like about yourself but give yourself the change to get to know the things you do like. Be fair as you would be with someone else. The better we learn to like ourselves, the better we will be in relationships with others.

Please remember this: The greatest love we can ever experience is the true love of self. It is the foundation of all other relationships. A loving self produces loving experiences and loving relationships. Take the time to discover this for yourself.

Note: The views expressed in this article are based on the experiences I have had with others in my reflection work and also with myself.

By
Charles Trenholm
Reflectionist

Finding Fault or Favour

2009-02-23T21:19:00.013-04:00

By
Charles Trenholm
Reflectionist

This week’s article was inspired by my mother. Yesterday we visited and celebrated her 82nd birthday. It was a good visit. She believes that she has earned the right to express herself as she wishes at her senior age. I am ok with that. It is my belief that everyone be given the opportunity to express themselves as long as it does not harm others. This article has been produced with the intention of recognizing fault given or taken and ways to find favor. Thank you for your honest nature Mother.

My mother has the ability to find or point out the negative parts in most things. In other words, she is very good at finding fault. It could be the critiquing of the singing of a song or the selection of certain words over others. I once told her that she would have made a brilliant lawyer because of her ability to poke holes into statements or speeches. That was my nice way of putting it.

Some people call it focusing on the negative or pessimism. Is the glass half empty or half full? How do we perceive any situation and from which prospective? If we have a choice between believing in a favorable outcome or a negative one, why do we choose the one we choose? There is a reason for everything and most reasons go back into our past where this mechanism of selection first created itself. Understanding that we have this mechanism is the first step in preparing to make a change.

The Following Day after Our Visit
On reflection the following day, I became aware of the subtle impact my mother's way had on me the day before. This is how I witnessed and processed the experience on replay:

"Each time she would launch into her robust opinion on whatever I might be saying, my intellectual side would make the allowance that it was her just her way of expressing herself. I would also be aware that it was not a way in which I would choose to express myself. However, my level of comfort would be decreased each time I would have to make this allowance. This level of diminishing comfort would also translate into an increase in physical exhaustion. At first I contributed the exhaustion to the driving distance to my mother’s home which is about 1.5 hours each way. But as I explored it deeper, I knew that my mother's way had had an impact. I would tell myself she is a good person and certainly is not aware of her own mechanism and the way it expresses itself in relation to me or others. If my comfort level and physical level is being impacted regardless of my level of understanding, then that is something of an emotional issue my intellectual side did not recognize. At least I am not pointing the fault with this at her. Or am I?

Conclusion
Our choice to find favor over fault (seeing the cup half full) certainly rests with us alone. It is something we can change by choosing ways to experience other choices of view. Our reaction to those who choose to find fault with us or others is a little more difficult to change. The emotional component of this reaction is most likely hidden within an earlier experience in life. In this case, a helping hand is sometimes required to get to the root of it so it can be resolved.

I thank my mother for inspiring me to write this article and may it inspire others to recognize the fault or favor within themselves.

Update - 20 April 2011

Today I was going through my old blog articles, updating where necessary and making sure that nothing else had changed. Well something had. I realized that at some point in my evolution something had changed within me. Replaying my current visits to my mother, I am now aware that she no longer impacts me with her ways. As a matter of fact, my experiences have changed so much that I no longer even experience and react to the personal criticisms from before. Whatever emotional fault resided within me is no longer present. And, it is helpful to know when to keep your mouth shut and when to open it. {smile}

When in our adult lives, we go through an internal change, our actual experiences change with it. There is no longer a need for taught awareness and increased understanding. We have evolved a little more in our quest for freedom and spiritual enlightenment

The Butterfly Man Story

2009-01-01T13:55:00.008-04:00

Some time ago I received a phone call from a lady wanting to know if I was 'The Butterfly Man.' It reminded me of my earlier work and the nickname I was often called.

In the early stages of this transformation therapy, I struggled with how to explain it to others. When I thought about transformation, I thought about the butterfly and its stages of development. It seemed to me that we were very much like the butterfly. I decided to use the example of the butterfly as a way to help people understand the process better during a session.

In order to promote this new healing modality I would attend wellness expos and provide free mini transformation sessions for people visiting my booth. A friend would usually accompany me and provide support. She was very good at promoting and taking names and her wonderful presence made it welcoming. Before I would know it, she would have my day fully booked. This is an explanation of how the actual process worked during a mini session:

The Explanation to the Client
Individuals (customers and vendors) would sit down across from me in the privacy of the booth. My explanation to them would be this:
I would begin by explaining a little about the stages of the butterfly and its similarities with human development. I would explain that it was not necessary for them to tell me anything about themselves. Then I would ask them their name/s. In response I would introduce myself in the vary same name they gave me. I would explain to them that they were looking at themselves in a mirror as they gazed upon me. They would be hearing their own thoughts and words at a specific age and moment in time; A time in which a conflict still existed either toward themselves or toward another family member. They would then be given the opportunity to verbally voice the conflict and work through changing their perception and belief about it. Or in some cases, engage a family member involved in the conflict thus changing the outcome. This is how I explained the process.

Experiencing the Actual Transformation
I would feel my vibration changing as I would begin to take on the identity of the person sitting across from me. I would feel myself being transformed to the original moment of the conflict. Then I would begin to openly voicing the actual thoughts or words of that individual. Each case would be different. Sometimes I would be transformed into a little child crying through some hurt and voicing it silently toward a mother or father. At other times I would be an unhappy teenager giving voice to the disappointments of his/her life and then using other more positive examples in their life to create a different understanding or respect for the situation.

How Word Would Spread
Once the transformation was completed, I would return to my own identity and explain to the individual the session was over and briefly explain what they had just witnessed and experienced. The effect on them would be instant. It was not something they could explain but they knew they had just experienced a personal transformation. They would return to their friends or to their booth and excitedly attempt to share what had happened to them. The explaining part of the process would be difficult but not on how they felt. They would most often not remember or know my name after their metamorphosis so they would say, "You have to go and see The Butterfly Man." This is how word spread and I became known as The Butterfly Man.

By
Charles Trenholm
Reflectionist

A Reality Shift Story

2009-01-01T13:00:00.009-04:00

This amazing experience was shared and posted on a different website by a client. It explains my work and the results. This is one client's story.

http://www.realityshifters.com/pages/yourstories88.html

I've been going through a lot over the past two years, and recently, things really started to get to me. I recently contacted a lightworker, Charles Trenholm http://giftedhealing.blogspot.com. Well,imagine my surprise when I found out that he works by going back into your past and shifting things around so that they affect a future outcome. Retrocausality! I just had to bite and have a session. Interestingly, this man had never heard of retrocausality, or reality shifting, or even how his gift works. So I was able to give him some information as well. The one thing he did say in our first phone call when I called to set up an appointment was that this is something he feels that everyone can do -- that everyone can reach back into the past and affect future change.

So, I had my session. We worked on what would help me most in my life right now. He says that he is able to access the conscious and the subconscious, as me, and hear what's going on there through a lifetime. Well, he certainly did that with me. It was downright amazing how he reached deep down into this life experience and he drew out all the pain, emotions, feelings and words. As he was saying these things, I was able to access exactly where these feelings and words were coming from. I was at the exact moment in this lifetime where this was happening. I could feel it, I was experiencing the emotions, and the best thing of all, I was doing this with total clarity and understanding. I could see exactly where/how my thoughts and feelings had developed, why I thought and felt the way I did, and best of all, it just didn't matter. There was a point when I actually felt reality shift. It felt like I was looking backwards, and there was a zig-zag line. When it shifted, I saw that line snap into a straight line. Now, this is the really interesting part, I had memories of stuff that had happened over the past few years...the last year especially...but none of those memories made sense, it's like they were there, but they were unreal in a way...after the line snapped straight, all of those memories made sense. I knew it was a new reality that had been put into place, that before this happened, that this reality wasn't there.. vague non-sensical memories are now strong and clear, and it's like this reality has always existed. And the best thing of all? I feel wonderful.

I'm such a skeptic when it comes to things like affecting change in the past. I honestly wasn't expecting this man to be able to affect change in my present and future by reaching back and changing my past, but that's exactly what happened. It was absolutely amazing and fascinating. Since the healing, I notice I'm more self-confident and willing to let things go by allowing the Universe to take care of them. I've re-evaluated the roles of several people in my life experience. Some I've decided to release with unconditional love because the only thing binding us was anger, hurt, etc. Others I decided to forgive and allow to be closer. Then there's the weight thing which i had just about given up on. Since the healing, 35 lbs has just vanished without diet or exercise. The biggest change has been in the career/job area. I decided that I want to work and the time is right. I had a wonderful employment coach fall into my lap and I've been utilizing her to the fullest. I can't believe how much skill and stuff I actually have and the wonderful jobs that I'm qualified for. Oh, and my children... I have tons more energy, we're doing a lot more, and I've really been cracking down in regard to boundaries and unacceptable behaviour. My guilt over the children being fatherless is completely gone now, much to the kid's horror! LOL They now have Mommy-naggypants to contend with!

Donna
Calgary, Alberta, Canada

Addictions

2009-01-01T12:00:00.009-04:00

Where do addictions come from? What is the source of addictions?

Lets pursue the answer to this question by examining the brain. The brain is made up of two halves or two spheres or two minds. The left mind, the intellectual mind, functions in a very orderly fashion and can think and communicate for itself and with others. It processes information received, then makes decisions. It is logical and uses reasoning based on previous experiences. If something is not logical, it will not decide or act without seeking further clarification. Its primary function is to place everything in the proper order and know where to find it. It can be understood to be simple and effective.

The right brain, the emotional mind on the other hand is different. It relays on impulses received from contact with its environment which includes people. It navigates by sight, sound, smell, touch and taste and uses its memory of these senses. It likes to make choices based on its previous responses. It can form strong attachments creating a need to re-experience these stimuli. Normally it makes its choices with the aid of the intellect. When in disagreement, it can act impulsively until order is restored. One can say in these cases the larger brain is of two minds and in a state of imbalance.

Please note: This explanation is a way of understanding human behavior. It is based on basic theories and on my many sessions with many minds.

What are addictions? The term "addiction" is used in many contexts to describe an obsession, compulsion, or excessive physical dependence, such as: drug addiction, alcoholism, compulsive overeating, problem gambling, computer and even sex addiction. An addiction is an uncontrolled response that goes against our better judgement. It controls us, we do not control it. The influence of past emotional attachments can override common sense. It does not matter whether we remember these so called emotional episodes. What matters is that they are still actively engaged in influencing our behavior. They manage to find an expressive outlet when triggered. When activated, they take charge and take control and must be satisfied.

Addictions can be understood to be an imbalance between the left and right brain. Understanding the science behind the left and right brain is a great way to get clarity in understanding our responses. I believe based on my past experiences as a Reflectionist that individuals can be taught to communicate with their two minds. This process can re-establish balance and harmony.

Note: Any opinions given in this article are based on the actual work of the author over the last 15 years. Please feel free to consider or reject them.

By
Charles Trenholm
Reflectionist

Phyllis's Healing Therapies

2009-01-01T12:00:00.007-04:00

The following link is to my friend and colleague's website: Psychic Reading and Reiki Treatments

Along with her own special gifts, she is very good at helping others find the special help they require. I thank her for her loving care for others and for her love and support she has shown me.

Charles Trenholm
Reflectionist